Just because I am a low-maintenance girl who is super chill and cool and doesn’t demand a lot of things, that doesn’t mean you can behave whatever way you want. Just because I don’t make drama, it doesn’t mean I’m blind to someone’s bad behavior or that I’ll let someone disrespect me.
Just because I’m the type of girl to whom things like frequent mood swings, mind games, and drama are only abstract terms, it doesn’t mean I’ll let some guy out there to play with my feelings and manipulate me.
Just because I’m an easygoing type of person that doesn’t ask from my partner to commit all of his free time to me, it doesn’t mean I’ll let him take me for granted and pretend like I don’t exist.
Yes, I’m all those things, but if you’re not going to do these 9 things for me – consider me gone:
1. Make me a priority.
Just because I am not demanding and I don’t make drama, it doesn’t mean that I won’t care if I am last on your priority list. Of course, I’m not going to disrespect your boundaries and complain whenever you go out with your friends, but if I notice that you don’t bother to make time for me and that you neglect my feelings, needs, and wishes, I am gone – you can take my word for it.
2. Always be consistent.
Yes, I’m a super chill and cool person, but that doesn’t mean I’m going to put up with your immature, fickle behavior. I expect you to be a man of high integrity and keep your promises. Otherwise, you’ll never gain my trust.
Oh, and yeah, things like leaving me to wait for hours for you to respond to my messages and calls or being affectionate only when you’re in the mood are out of the question.
3. Respect me.
If you think that I’m going to stick around just because you treat me with utmost respect and kindness in front of your friends and family, you need a reality check. I want you to respect my feelings, needs, decisions, and choices. I want you to respect my opinions no matter how different they are from yours.
I want you to treat me with kindness, compassion, lots of love, and dignity. It’s not too much to ask, is it?
4. Support me.
I may be used to dealing with my problems on my own, but that doesn’t mean I’m not going to need you to be there for me when times get tough for me.
I want you to be my greatest help. My best friend. My cheerleader. My most loyal fan. I want you to stay by my side when life sends me difficult challenges, obstacles, and problems. I want you to stay with me through thick and thin.
5. Be honest about your intentions.
I need to know that we’re both headed in the same direction. I need to know that you feel about me the same way I feel about you.
I am not the type of girl who would pressure you to commit or do things you don’t want to do. But, I’m also not the type of girl who would be with someone who wants to keep the relationship casual even though he knows I’m looking for a serious relationship.
6. Include me in your future plans.
If you can’t imagine your future with me, then what’s the point of being together? If you don’t include me in your future plans and let me know that you can’t imagine your future without me being a part of it, know that I’m not going to stay with you and patiently wait for you to dump me.
7. Respect my loved ones.
Even if you don’t like some cousin or friend of mine, I expect you to respect them. Because if you talk bad things about them or get in angry arguments with them whenever you meet them, or, let alone, try to poison my mind against them, you’ll leave me with no other choice but to conclude that you don’t respect me either.
8. Take care of yourself.
Just because I don’t feel the need to get supremely decked for work, parties, or wherever, it doesn’t mean I don’t care about the way I look or the image I create of myself in society. And it certainly doesn’t mean that I’ll be fine if you don’t care about the way you look.
Taking care of yourself shows self-respect. So, if you arrive at dates looking like your clothes have been just taken out of the washing machine and like you haven’t shaved your beard in months, not only will this show that you lack self-respect but it’ll make me lose interest in you very fast.
9. Show me your love.
If I am not sure in your love for me, there’s no way I’m going to stick around. I want you to show me that we’re on the same page. That you love and care about me as much as I love and care about you. And I want you to show that not only through your words but actions as well.
Showing interest in the things I like, doing those little things that seem unimportant but actually make me feel loved and happy, listening to me when I complain about things, and remembering little details about me, like remembering that I always drink my coffee with milk, are all important.
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